This #MakeItHappenMonday, let’s talk about fear. Whether it’s the flutter of nerves before an audition, the dread of rejection, or the terror of stepping into the unknown, fear is something we all experience as performers. Inspired by Susan Jeffers’ life-changing book, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, today we’ll explore how you can understand, embrace, and even harness fear to propel your performing career forward.
Understanding Fear: Why It’s Not Your Enemy
Fear is often misunderstood. It’s not a sign of failure or weakness—it’s a sign that you’re growing. Fear arises whenever we step out of our comfort zone, whether it’s taking on a challenging role, learning a new skill, or putting yourself out there for judgement. As Jeffers explains, the problem isn’t fear itself but how we respond to it.
The goal isn’t to eliminate fear—it’s to reframe it. Fear can either paralyse you or push you into action. The choice is yours.
3 Levels of Fear: Where Does Your Fear Come From?
Jeffers identifies three levels of fear, each of which can feel overwhelming in its own way. Let’s break them down:
- Level 1: Surface Fears
These fears are tied to specific events or situations—like auditioning, performing in front of a large crowd, or learning a new skill. They’re often the “stories” we tell ourselves about what might go wrong: “What if I mess up? What if they hate me?” - Level 2: General Fears
These fears run deeper, relating to your identity and self-worth. They include the fear of rejection, failure, or even success. Such fears often influence multiple areas of life, subtly undermining your confidence and creating self-doubt. - Level 3: The Ultimate Fear
Beneath all fears lies the core belief: “I won’t be able to handle it.” This lack of confidence is the root of most fears. The good news? You can teach yourself to handle anything life throws your way. Once you truly believe that, fear loses its grip on you.
The Pain-to-Power Shift: Reclaiming Control
One of Jeffers’ most powerful concepts is the idea of moving from a mindset of pain to one of power. When fear dominates, we feel stuck, helpless, or defeated. But when we shift into a power mindset, we reclaim our ability to act, choose, and grow.
Here’s how to make the shift:
- Pain Mindset: “What if I fail?” “I can’t do this.” “I’ll wait until I’m ready.”
- Power Mindset: “I’ll handle whatever comes my way.” “This is a chance to grow.” “I’ll learn as I go.”
Actionable Tip: Each time fear holds you back, reframe it. Instead of saying, “What if I mess up?” ask, “What can I learn from this experience?”
No-Lose Decisions: Letting Go of ‘Right’ and ‘Wrong’
As performers, we often agonise over decisions, fearing we’ll make the “wrong” choice. Should I take this gig or hold out for something bigger? Should I pursue this role or focus on another project?
Jeffers’ concept of “No-Lose Decisions” is transformative. It’s the idea that every choice offers valuable lessons and opportunities, so there’s no “wrong” path—only different ones.
Here’s how to embrace this idea:
- Let Go of Perfection: Trust that each decision will lead to growth in its own way.
- Focus on the Journey: Ask yourself, “What can I gain or learn from each option?”
- Take the Leap: With no “wrong” choice, there’s no reason to stay stuck in indecision.
Actionable Tip: The next time you face a tough decision, list the potential benefits of each option. Then trust yourself to choose and commit to making the most of it.
The 5 Truths About Fear for Performers
- Fear is a Sign of Growth: If you’re stepping into new territory, fear is normal. Celebrate it as proof you’re stretching yourself.
- Avoiding Fear Doesn’t Work: Waiting for the “right time” only keeps you stuck. The only way out is through.
- Action Reduces Fear: The more you face your fears, the less scary they become. Practice makes progress.
- Conquering Fear Feels Amazing: Each time you overcome a fear, you build confidence and self-respect.
- You’re Not Alone: Even the most successful performers experience fear. It’s part of the process.
Living a Whole, Fearless Life
Jeffers also reminds us that fear thrives when we put all our energy into one thing—be it a single role, career goal, or relationship. By diversifying your life—exploring new hobbies, strengthening relationships, and investing in personal growth—you create a foundation that’s less vulnerable to fear.
Actionable Tip: Identify one area outside of performing that brings you joy or fulfilment. Schedule time this week to nurture it—whether that’s spending time with loved ones, learning a new skill, or engaging in self-care.
Your #MakeItHappenMonday Call to Action
This week, challenge yourself to “feel the fear and do it anyway.” Here’s how to get started:
- Name Your Fear: Write down one thing you’ve been avoiding because of fear.
- Take One Small Step: What’s one small, manageable action you can take towards facing that fear?
- Reflect and Reframe: At the end of the week, reflect on what you’ve learned and how you’ve grown.
Fear doesn’t have to hold you back. It can be the catalyst that drives you forward. Take the leap, embrace the unknown, and make this week your most fearless yet.
What will you tackle this week? Let us know in the comments or on social media with #MakeItHappenMonday. Let’s inspire one another to thrive!
