This #WellnessWednesday, let’s explore an essential aspect of human interaction and mental well-being, inspired by a powerful post from @thepresentpsychologist… “What You See vs. What You Don’t see.”
“Do not judge a book by its cover.”
This timeless saying holds profound importance, especially in the world of performing arts. Interestingly, our profession often stands in stark contrast to this principle. As performers, we are constantly judged by our covers—our looks, expressions, and stage presence. Auditions, performances, and even publicity shots are all about creating a specific impression. First impressions can be crucial, and the ability to make quick judgments about others can sometimes serve us well in assessing intentions or understanding a role.
However, while our profession may necessitate quick judgments and surface-level assessments, it’s essential to remember that what we see on the surface is just a fraction of the whole story.
The Visible and the Invisible
When we meet someone, we quickly notice their behaviour, body language, and expressions. These are the tip of the iceberg—what lies above the waterline. However, much like an iceberg, the majority of what shapes a person lies beneath the surface. Their past, trauma, struggles, thoughts, feelings, and pain are all hidden from view.
As performers, it is crucial to recognize that each person we encounter carries an unseen weight of experiences and emotions. Here’s how understanding this can make a difference in our professional and personal lives:
1. Building Empathy
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. By acknowledging that there is more to people than meets the eye, we can foster deeper, more genuine connections. This is particularly important in a collaborative environment like theatre or film, where trust and mutual respect are paramount.
2. Enhancing Performance
Understanding the depth of human experience can enhance your performance. By tapping into the unseen aspects of the characters you portray, you bring authenticity and richness to your roles. This depth of understanding allows you to portray characters with more nuance and empathy, making your performance resonate more powerfully with the audience.
3. Creating a Supportive Community
A supportive and understanding community is vital for the mental well-being of performers. By practicing empathy and withholding judgment, we can create a safe space where individuals feel valued and understood. This supportive environment not only nurtures creativity but also promotes emotional resilience.
Setting Boundaries with Empathy
While empathy is crucial, it is equally important to maintain healthy boundaries. Empathy does not mean allowing others to harm or take advantage of you. It’s about understanding and acknowledging someone’s inner world while also protecting your own well-being.
- Respect Your Boundaries: Know your limits and communicate them clearly. It’s okay to step back if someone’s behaviour crosses your boundaries.
- Self-Care: Empathy can be emotionally taxing. Ensure you take time for self-care and recharge your emotional batteries.
- Seek Support: If you find yourself overwhelmed by someone else’s struggles, seek support from friends, mentors, or mental health professionals.
As performers, we have a unique opportunity to connect with others on a profound level, both on and off the stage. By remembering that there is always more beneath the surface, we can approach our interactions with greater empathy and understanding. This not only enriches our performances but also contributes to a more compassionate and supportive community.
So, the next time you interact with someone, remember the iceberg. Let empathy guide your understanding and create a space where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued. After all, it’s what lies beneath the surface that truly shapes who we are.
Keep thriving, performers, and remember to always look beyond what you see.
Source: @thepresentpsychologist
